CYBER BULLY

Cyber bullying is common these days on all popular social networks ranging from, Facebook to twitter, to Instagram,it's the use of technology in harassing an individual, cyber bullying us not limited to messages, or texts it can also be a video which a person finds offensive, cyber bullying is by far one of the worst kind of bullying ever, you don't know the person picking on you, do they can't be traced, most of the time they are anonymous. Most people don't really know the damage, cyber bullying causes to an individual, it can lead to loss in appetite, stress, sleepless night, we comes across someone being bullied online then join or laugh cause we think it's funny and entertaining forgetting the damage it does to the person been bullied, I for one haven't bullied anyone online but I do recall laughing to myself when I came across someone been bullied on facebook, I considered it to be funny, karma really does work, the next morning someone on twitter called me ugly, at first I brushed it off my mind, since I know I am not ugly, I logged off, later in the day I logged back in, I saw the attention the tweet received from other Twitter users, I was laughed at, insulted the more, I felt hurt, like maybe I was actually ugly, but then it dawned on me that this is what people who are bullied constantly on the Internet feel each day, from that day onward, when I come across someone been bullied on the net, I send them a positive message, who knows, just maybe it would be what would make their day.

Cyber bullying is not limited to kids or young adult only, older people also do it whether knowingly or unknowingly, as long as you bringing someone else down just to feel good about your self, you already a bully, if you know someone that's been bullied, get them to open up to you, encourage them and make them feel good about their selves, I have come across so many cases of suicides resulting from cyber bullying it's really heartbreaking.

MEN MARRY THE WOMEN THEY WANT TO MARRY

The idea that men are clueless allows them to get away
with all manner of bad behavior that would have been
intolerable just a generation or two ago.
Men know that most women want marriage. Women
need to know that many men will do everything in their
power to get all the benefits of marriage, except without
commitment. While you’re getting exasperated thinking
he’s stupid because he spends money on you, he’s ruining you.
Men understand women on a level that you can never
begin to grasp, because it’s from the mindset of a hunter.
And a good hunter has an intrinsic understanding of his
prey. Women make the mistake of thinking that they are
wiser than men. Immoral men understand a crucial component of the
female psyche: For most women: Hope springs eternal,
so if he plays his cards right, he can string you along for
years without proposing.
Most of us know at least one woman who waited for a
man to marry her, waited sometimes for a decade or
more. She played house with him, took care of him,
cooked, cleaned, etc. but he never married her.
Finally she ends the relationship and he marries the next
woman he dates after only six months or maybe less. I
think we all know a woman like this because it reinforces
something we already know: MEN MARRY THE WOMEN
THEY WANT TO MARRY. And if you’re not that woman you
are not just it. It’s absolutely foolish to play wife for a
man who can’t be bothered to actually marry you.
Bottom line is; if you've reached the point in your
relationship where it’s time for “The Talk” and it hasn't
happened, or he brushes it off when you raise the
subject, move on. Why? Because men who want to get
married, get married. It’s not that he’s not into marriage,
or he’s still dealing with “issues” from a previous
relationship, or whatever other folder he puts out there.
There’s only one reason a man doesn't get married: HE
DOESN'T WANT TO. At least, NOT TO YOU. Don’t fool yourself. A man who wants you will be rushing YOU to the altar. Why? Because he’s terrified that you’ll
get away from him. A man in love is all too aware that he
has a pearl beyond price. Further he knows there is a
plethora of other predatory males just waiting to snatch
her away.
You don’t have to beg him or persuade him or coerce
him, trap him with pregnancy or fast for days. The only
thing you’ll get for all your trouble is a decimated self-
esteem and the knowledge that you wasted your skinny
years on a man who didn't want you in the first place.

TO LOVE AND BE LOVED

It's easier for you to love someone than for them to love you in return, we all know the thrilling experience of falling in love, swooning, their voice makes you melt, leaves butterflies dancing in your stomach, when they smile, the whole world smiles with them just because you love them, but being loved is a whole different thing, knowing there is someone who makes your happiness their priority, who goes the extra mile to put a smile on your face, you smile, they smile, you cry, they want to wipe those silly tears away, just because they love you.

Unfortunately most times, we don't love the people who love us and the ones we love, doesn't love us in return, this circle goes on and on without ending, it's frustrating when you are trying to make someone see reasons why you love them, it's like pouring water into a basket, complete waste of time, you may catch a grenade for them according to Bruno Mars, jump in front of a train for them, they'd still not appreciate it, I sincerely don't blame those people or have a problem with them because you can't force the heart to love someone. I had a first hand experience with this, there was this guy I loved and cared for, I did everything just to please him, even to the extent of displeasing myself, but yet he didn't even care for me one bit, fast forward one year, I met another guy that loved me but I didn't, he would call, text, visit, care and yet I had no feelings for him, no matter how much I forced myself I couldn't show him the love he deserves, at that moment I realized it was what I was experiencing now, that the first guy was experiencing.

Some people are lucky to fall in love with someone who loves them, everything falls in place, the sun shines brighter, everything is perfect, they can go through thick or thin, just because they love each other, how many people can boast of loving someone, that they know sincerely loves them in return.

ADVICE OF THE WEEK

So true

SHALLOW THINKERS

Have you ever argued with somebody, and you were like WOW such ignorance. I don't like arguing, I prefer giving you reasons to make you see reason with me, if I succeed fine, if I don't no problem, I keep wondering where some people get the strength to argue on and on and on without getting tired, I just can't no no, I simply do not have time for that, once I discover your level of reasoning is low I just stop immediately, I wouldn't want to start exchanging words so other people won't think I have lost my senses.

I recently had the opportunity to work with a graduate of petroleum engineering for three months, and me been me like to get to know people, I talked with him, said jokes, one day I was like I would love to visit Dubai and stay in one of their hotels even if it's just for a night, to spoil myself a little, and the next thing I heard from the guy was that let me use my cap locks "ALL LADIES WHO LODGE IN HOTELS ARE PROSTITUTES" I was shocked, dumbfounded to say the least, I tried explaining to him that, the hotel industry was made to satisfy the needs of both sexes making available shelter, food and other things, I gave an instance of what if his wife had an appointment in another city, she doesn't know anybody, no friends no relations, where would she stay, he said he would look for someone or his friends even male, for her to spend the night or she would forfeit the appointment, at that point I rested my case, because it was obvious arguing with him won't change anything but will only succeed in making me look like an idiot.

In a nutshell what he meant was that any female whoever you are, where ever you are as long as you've lodged in a hotel at any point, you a prostitute.

I find people that think this low appalling, I term them SHALLOW THINKERS, what they know is correct, what you know is wrong, you just have to agree with what they know, simple as A B C, you argue at your own risk, do nott even bother, when you notice someone with this disease because it is a disease just keep mute, or he or she would classify you as the Shallow thinker.

MY FRIEND, MY SISTER!!!

I grew up not knowing who my father was....

I was brought up single handedly by my mother though she remarried after some years as I grew up & later had 3kids younger than me.
My step dad was a drunk half d time & nice when he was sober enough to be..
Suffice to say he depended on my mom's little earning from petty trade & as a 'washer woman' It was rough growing up nd I vowed to be better
I struggled thru secondary school & even gained admission into a polytechnic...it was God's greatest gift for me.
It was there I met a Shola, who saved me from some guys in school on d way home when I could have been molested cos according to plp, I am beautiful...I never saw myself as one cos I could never afford all sort of things used by ladies to look beautiful.. So I guess am a natural beauty
Crystal & I became best of friends. She took me to her home, introduced me to her parents nd she practically sponsored me thru school.

In my final year, I met a guy through her, who was a family friend of her family. They were tight. I even thought they were dating at some point or must have had something together once...The guy had been out of the country for a while and was actually crystal's  elder brother's friend
I started sating the guy and 5yrs later (2008),we got married & traveled out of the country. Crystal  was in and out of relationships...she seemed to be unlucky in love..

All d while we remained friends and sisters & our bond got tighter nd stronger..
She comes to visit nd do business  in the UK where I resided with my husband. We have just a child, a boy, a copy of my husband. There was peace...until
Crystal was in another relationship and was jilted some weeks into marriage after all preparations done. Sadly!!
She was devastated and almost killed herself.

It was d most natural thing for me to invite her to come stay with me in London. She was with us for about 2months until she decided to head back to Nigeria.
8mths later, crystal gave birth to a beautiful girl for a new man she just met...
Out of wedlock...I was so at this but she said she decided to get pregnant & work at marriage later.
She came with her baby several time to UK to visit wt us and all was well. Though the man in her life was never able to as he was busy at work. She came twice
Her baby was 3yrs last year & they were both on holiday in London.. Shola stayed in an hotel despite my persuasions.

8mths after & My friend gave birth to a son...I was ecstatic for her & even encouraged her to get married to d man.

I couldn't live UK for a while & my friend couldn't come to visit as I usual. She didn't send pix of baby as she was advised against this by her pastor.

3mths ago, I eventually came to Nigeria for d first time since I left..& Now am pregnant wt my 2nd child.

1st point of call was my friend..
I went to see my friend & behold was a copy of my son...Shola wasn't expecting me...she was shocked as I was...f
I needed no one to tell me this.
Same birthmark, same spot as my son & husband.

He was my husbands son...my son's brother!
I fainted...
Woke up & lost my baby!
I was broken hearted.

Now after much stories..confirmation...apologies...
I am confused

What do I do?
I need HELP